Top 10 Reasons You Aren’t Getting Any Responses To Your Tinder Opener

Written by: John Branson
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In this article, we will layout the top 10 reasons why you are not getting replies to your Tinder openers. Although we write this article with Tinder in mind, most of these reasons also apply to Bumble or any other dating app and sites that work in a similar way to Tinder.

Without further ado, here are the 10 reasons your match didn’t reply to your conversation starter.

No Tinder Responses

1.      Your Tinder opener is not good enough

This is the most likely reason. With a great Tinder opener, you should get over 75% Tinder response rate. If you are not getting close to 75%, read our post on how to have the best opener, and apply the suggestions we laid out there to get over 75%.

However, you can have the best opener, you still have to accept that some girls simply don’t answer to any Tinder messages for various reasons. In this short post, we have collected the reasons most often occur, some of them are obviously overlapping.

2.      She is using Tinder for an ego boost.

Let’s be honest, everyone is getting a little dopamine rush from getting matches, so it is something you can obviously understand. She is really proud that she has over 1000 matches, she can brag to her friends and feel that she is valuable because of it.

Actually, it is better if these kinds of girls don’t start a conversation with you, as they wouldn’t want to meet up with you anyway, so the conversation would be just a waste of your time.

3.      They are using Tinder to get Instagram/Snapchat followers.

Based on the motivation mentioned in the previous point. Tinder has made it recently more difficult for girls to use Tinder for boosting the follower numbers of their Instagram account by not showing the name of the Instagram profile privately. (It was also made hidden due to privacy concerns.)

Girls can still say on their bio that follow them on their IG profile and add their profile names and say that they are not checking Tinder anymore.

4.      They are superhot

Because they are attractive, simply there are just too many messages they are getting constantly on Tinder, so they don’t have the time to reply. Here you can start to send a message again, you have nothing to lose, actually, you can increase your chance of getting a reply.

Fixing point #1 can also help, but there is no magic pill, you can only increase your chances with these kinds of girls.

5.      She might have just entered something long-term thanks to Tinder

She feels it wouldn’t be right to flirt with someone else at the moment. It might be temporary, so you can try to reengage her later. See the previous point

6.      She deleted Tinder, the app, but not her account.

So you can still see her profiles and everything, but she can’t even see your messages at all. It is a very frequent reason, as most people believe that when they delete their profile they also delete their account.

7.      It is a fake Tinder account

There was a time when almost every 2nd profile on Tinder was a bot. Although Tinder has been quite successful recently in detecting bot and fake accounts, there are still some accounts that have no real persons behind them, they might want to promote something, collect some data, etc.

As they are bots they obviously won’t reply to any of your messages, or even if they replied to you, it is an ot of context message.

8.      It was an accident, she wanted to swipe you left

The girl actually wanted to swipe you left, but she swiped right accidentally. They didn’t really bother to delete you or they don’t know how to delete profiles on Tinder, so they simply ignore you.

9.      In your first Tinder profile picture you looked attractive, but is it way over-photoshopped

She has swiped you right based on your first picture, but when she checked the other pictures after the match, she became disappointed. You photoshopped all your acne or something like that, but only on the 1st picture.

Photoshop is great, but don’t overdo it. She might have no problem with your acne, but the way you overdid it with photoshop, actually highlights the physical feature you want to hide.

10. Creepy Tinder bio description

Being overly sexual or writing some crazy stuff on your bio is never a good idea. Same situation as the one mentioned in the previous point, as she did not see when she liked your profile. Most people don’t really read the bio when they are swiping but check it when they are getting a message.

Avoid that and write a great bio.

Besides the first point, point 9. and 10. can be easily fixed, the other ones are also something you can influence by having a super-good opener, but keep in mind that you can never make sure that you will reach 100% response ratio.

Final tip: don’t take it Tinder personally

If you are following all the advice we give out in this blog and you are crushing in online dating, you should have way too many matches to deal with anyway.

Don’t send a butthurt message after 2 days, it happens several times that a girl only answers after a week, maybe she is just extremely busy. Secondly, if you don’t send an offensive message, you will also have a chance to reopen her after about 2 weeks. Here is it how you can do that.

So that is the 10 reasons you are not getting any replies to your Tinder opener. Did we miss out on anything?  What is your experience with your opening response ratio? Share with us in the comment section below.